Conclusion

When supporting the Veteran in your life who is grieving, it can be hard to know how to help. Sometimes the worry of saying or doing the wrong thing prevents showing support in ways that could be helpful or meaningful. Other times, when we are focused on trying to “fix” it, with the best of intentions, we may end up saying things that are not helpful.

You cannot take away their grief, but you can help by acknowledging their losses, validating their feelings, listening with compassion and patience, and, if needed, helping to get them connected to professional help. You may also be experiencing your own sense of loss and grief, and it is important that you attend to it also. It is critical that you find ways to care for yourself so that you have the energy and stamina to be there in the long run.

See The impact of service families and The impact of leaving service on families.